How to weave a thread of time for yourself ?

Hi again! As I mentioned in my last blog post that I’d see you next Thursday, well, it finally came after 2 weeks. I couldn’t make it last week as I had a sick week. But here I am again, fit and fine!  

Okay, so now let’s dive straight into today’s topic. In this perpetual struggle to tick off all the tasks in our to-do lists and running daily errands, we tend to sideline the most crucial task i.e., to spend time with ourselves. Another phrase used for it which is nowadays in vogue is “Me-Time”. But the main question is how do we exactly extract time from our daily customary routines when we already have a lot on our plates.

I think I may be able to help you with a few strategies all of which have worked for me.

1.Waking up early

Folks, I understand what tremendous amount of vigor is required to do that. It was hard for me even and it was rather harder because I had been a night owl since forever and so it was quite a cumbersome step to take. Though while trying to take that step, I fell a zillion times but got back up eventually and I have been standing firmly touchwood. Thus, start waking up early. I’m not trying to imply to wake up at 4 in the morning but take baby steps as I always say. Say, if you generally wake up at 10, try waking up an hour early. Even doing this with consistency will help and yes, of course it would give you extra time to reflect on your thoughts and feelings and journal and simply spend time the way you want.

This quote kind of justifies my opinion.

2.Delegate Tasks

It does not mean that you get on your friend’s nerves and plead him/her to finish your pending assignments. Hah! But it simply means that tasks that aren’t so essential can be done by someone else. So, save up your time and ask the other person to do it on your behalf…. only if the other person is affable. For example, if you have to collect a parcel from somewhere and if one of your inmates seem to be free, you can politely ask them if they can lend you a favor.

3.Distractions

As I mentioned this in my previous blog also (Link to the previous blog: https://quirkytalksss.art.blog/2022/01/06/how-to-make-a-fresh-start/ ), I would like to point this out here as well because it is of utmost importance to try as hard as possible to avoid distractions at all costs. Deviations do steal a hefty amount of your precious time. So, if they are kept in control, we can potentially save time for ourselves.

4.Procrastination

This one had to come up somehow. It is the biggest time-waster. If you really are eager to save time, then you can’t move on without curing yourself of this disease namely “Procrastination”. Beyond a shadow of a doubt, it is extremely tough at first but you would be able to eliminate this problem if you keep persevering!

So, with this, I’ll wrap up and I would like to read your comments on how else we can take out time for ourselves.

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How to wipe the slate of life clean?

As we all know, the pandemic has wreaked havoc in our lives. With the second wave in full bloom, the previous year was a challenging period for all of us. It was draining and exhausting, mentally and physically both. However, trying to get back to our old lovely lives, we can certainly begin the new year with a new outlook towards life and new strategies and moves or as the adage goes “New year new you”.

Premium Photo | New start 2022 concept loading new year 2022 with hand putting wood cube in progress bar

For this purpose, I’d like to impart my tips that would help you to start on a fresh and positive note.

1.Get a second wind

As I said earlier, life has been super tedious and listless. It has almost transformed into something stoic and lifeless that keeps playing on repeat. It has become more of a surviving struggle rather than a life with wings. So, to restart, rejuvenating yourself and giving yourself a break is a must.

2.Gulp a drink endowed with motivation, inspiration and vigor:

Boost yourself with confidence and faith. Watch motivational videos, read something that evokes a wave of inspiration in you or simply surround yourself with people who give positive vibes and who push you forward. Energize yourself.

3. Exercise

Well, you might be wondering how is that a cue to a fresh start. Your guess was as good as mine until I got acquainted with the plethora of benefits that regular physical exercise can give us. I realized that increase in our physical strength is just the tip of the iceberg. It releases hormones called endorphins which are also known as ‘feel-good’ hormones. These hormones enable us to feel gratified and exhilarated. It is also proved that daily physical workouts lead to increased productivity rate.

4. Steer away from distractions

Distractions often make us go off the rails. They are misleading and seem to be so appealing that we tend to forget everything but unwanted pests. Hence, it is vital that you seek ways to keep your diversions away from yourself in each way possible to remain focused and concentrated on your goals. I mentioned this in my previous blog also (Link to the previous blog: ), I would like to point this out here as well because it is of utmost importance to try as hard as possible.

5.Take baby steps

Tiny steps of progress one after the other with perseverance ultimately lead to success. So, it is redundant and futile to be harsh on yourself and burden yourself with unrealistic expectations.

With this, I’ll call it a day and we’ll meet next Thursday:).  

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5 things to let go in the new year

Although new year doesn’t tickle my fancy much (no offence to the people who are a fan of it), but I think we can certainly consider it as an occasion to mark the beginning of new habits and elimination of old bad habits. So, in this article, I would like to enumerate the things which I feel you should stop clinging on to and give them up for good.

1.Self-criticism

Foremost of all, STOP CRITICIZING YOURSELF!! Seriously folks, it’s high time! You can’t beat yourself up for even the tiniest of mix-ups. It not only gives rise to pessimism but also plummets your self-esteem. You tend to lack faith in yourself. So, if not for sparing yourself, stop it even if you want your self-doubting attitude to fade away.

2. Materialism

Perhaps you have read or listened to this word for a zillion times but it’s mentioned because of a reason. You have to stop believing in materialism because it can never guarantee you long-term gratification. Buying a Prada purse or a Fila sweatshirt or even buying a watch may make you happy. However, that is not happiness, that is a mirage! It’s a temporary sense of fulfillment because you’re “going with the trend” and being modish. At the same time, I’m not trying to persuade you to stop buying them if they aren’t necessary pre-requisites but the point I’m trying to put across is that don’t drive yourself crazy for achieving each and every product just for the pleasure of possessing a branded item or something which is in vogue. Don’t turn blind eye to other vital attributes a specific product should have in the run of buying branded things. Moreover, there is a vast ocean of lively, intangible things beyond materialistic, stolid pleasures.

3. Practice of prejudice and judging people

We tend to judge people with or without a valid reason quite often. However, it’s not correct. We don’t have any right to turn our assumptions about people into facts. If someone’s talking impolitely to you, maybe they are not in a good shape or they are going through a rough patch in their life. Instead of thinking critically, we rather perceive them as harsh or rude. We should be understanding enough to embrace others’ behavior and stop criticizing them. However, this too should be done with caution because there’s a limit of understanding people and it should not be exceeded. Otherwise, you may be taken for granted and you may end up misunderstanding whilst trying to approach people’s attitudes in a positive manner.

4. Perfectionism

Striving for perfection is nothing but a sheer wastage of time. Nobody can be flawless. It’s a human tendency to make mistakes. We can try to avoid them at all costs but cannot stop committing mistakes permanently. We definitely should always try becoming the best version of ourselves but we can never be perfect. Not only does it wreak you nothing, but also it leaves no room for improvement.

5. Loop of overthinking about what people think or say about you

Most of the things that people utter out of their mouths about us are wrong perceptions. It’s because it is only you who know yourself the best. When it’s not true then why to even care to listen? Even if it’s true, then take it as a feedback and move on. Don’t just ruin your mood because someone said something to you. It should not bother you. I know it’s easier said than done but again, practice is the key. Also, if you want to know more about how to stop being conscious regarding what people think or say, refer to this article: https://quirkytalksss.art.blog/2021/12/23/133/

Well, that was it for the day! Comment down which habit do you think should be eliminated by all, the following year.

Wishing you all a very blissful new year. Hope this year the pandemic comes to an end and we are able to get back to our safe old lives for which we now yearn.  

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This phenomenon makes you socially anxious. Read ahead to dig in deeper.

Whenever something embarrassing and awkward takes place , we tend to overthink about the situation and cling to it. We assume that people would be judging us on the basis of a single incident and we feel super uncomfortable. This entire process of replaying the incident in your head on loop and irrationally concluding that people must have witnessed this embarrassing moment of yours is called THE SPOTLIGHT EFFECT.

In actual, all of this is a total fallacy. Each of us considers oneself as the center of attention in our own lives. So, if we think that our embarrassing moment was noticed by others, then we are not truly right. It’s because others have lives of their own. They, like us, have a plethora of thoughts and overwhelmed feelings popping up in their respective minds. For instance, you accidentally stumble on a piece of rock while scrolling through social media. Now, this incident becomes your first world problem and you go red in the face and try to sneak out from the place of incident surreptitiously. You start beating yourself up for your clumsiness. You carry this cumbersome load on your shoulders. You start to become conscious as to how people would perceive this action of yours and this tickles you like forever. However, people, on the other hand, are in their own worlds: some of them are probably overthinking too and becoming angsty on their silly incidents while some of them are pondering about their problems and how to get rid of them.

How to overcome it?

  • Firstly, stop beating yourself up for your not-so-proud incidents. After all, we all are humans. We all tend to make mistakes. So, what if you spilled coffee all over your t-shirt, what if you stuttered while delivering a speech, what if you run into someone who knows you but you don’t recognize them. It’s totally okay. It somehow indicates a similarity among all of us that we all are clumsy in one way or the other; no one is perfect. Let’s embrace our flaws and imperfections!
  • Secondly, you would not know what is really going on in people’s minds for eternity. At the time of any particular incident, we get a zillion of unpleasant, critical thoughts out of which most of them are solely assumptions and absolutely not true. All of it is just in our heads. So, try to throw all of these self-underestimating thoughts off your brain. I know that it’s not a piece of cake. You will get used to it if you begin to practise this technique regularly. Catch yourself whenever you’re pondering about how people will judge you and try your best to drive away these thoughts. They aren’t healthy at all.
  • Lastly, if you feel embarrassed, put yourself in the shoes of the people who may have been there at that instant. Think if you would notice some random stranger in a room of 50 people. Even if you do, by chance, would you begin to judge them just because they acted a little uncanny? Possibilities are that you won’t even notice and even if you would, you wouldn’t bother to give them attention. So, to cut to the chase, changing your point of view will make you realize that people don’t actually care much as they are too engrossed in their own little worlds and this would help you to cure yourself of this effect.

Hope you were able to get your head around this concept.

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Top 7 Christmas movies you should watch to feel the holiday vibes

Since Christmas is around the corner, I would love to pen down names of some of the movies that I truly love and they are some of the most exuberant and “feel-good” movies. These would be worth your time.

  1. Christmas Prince (all the three parts) – I can never get over this collection. In every part, along with the preparations of the great grand festival, they also present a mystery that needs to be resolved. I’m sure you will be hooked once you start watching.

2. Princess switch (all the three parts) – Though these may not be considered as full-fledged Christmas movies but it is based around the time of Christmas. It’s one of its kind. It has a very appealing story in which two look-alikes audaciously switch their places. It’s quite interesting to watch.

3. Holiday Rush – Oh! This movie has my heart. The movie is about a single father who is a radio jockey by profession. Unfortunately, during the best time of the year, he is bound to encounter numerous obstacles that come in his way and he leaves no stone unturned to secure his kids.

4. A California Christmas– This one has a freshly-wrought story. It has two main characters – one is a simpleton who possess a farm of her own in California. On the other hand, there is this rich, spoilt guy who travels to California for convincing the girl for a deal but ends up turning over a new leaf. It has a sequel as well but I haven’t completed watching it.

5. A Cinderella Story: Christmas Wish – This movie, as the name suggests, is inspired by Cinderella but it has its own authenticity. I simple adore this one!

6. The Holiday Calendar – This movie showcases a girl owning an antique advent calendar which is magical and just as she picks out little gifts from the calendar blocks every day, some miracle symbolizing the gift occurs. It’s indeed very entertaining.

7. Father Christmas is back – I just finished watching this one. I really liked it. It is an all-in-one movie: It has many satirical moments endowed with emotions and of course the holiday magic. Though I still won’t prefer it over Christmas Prince or Princess Switch.

PS: All these movies are available on Netflix.

This is all for today. If you watch any of the above listed movies or if you’d already watched, comment down your favorite line from the movie and I’ll guess it.

Hope this holiday spirit helps you recover from the black and white pandemic era, bring colors of joy and love to your life and get a second wind from the perpetual hectic meetings and errands to run!

Wishing you a joyous and fun-filled Christmas!!

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6 tips to become quick off the mark when confronted with a mishap.

As we all know, life is not a cakewalk; it’s strewn with obstacles. Hurdles in life are inevitable and unavoidable no matter how much we try to run away from them. Henceforth, facing them requires some strategies and here are 6 things you should do in order to become a decisive and quick-witted problem solver:

  1. Gain control of your emotions and feelings on which I elaborated in my previous blog [Click on this link and check it out in case you missed it: https://quirkytalksss.art.blog/2021/12/09/why-does-our-brain-always-stimulate-negatively-towards-problems-can-we-turn-optimistic/%5D
  2. Ponder about what is the first thing you should do to settle the arisen wave of obstruction temporarily.
  3. Share your hassle with someone concerned in the field of matter and consult them on how to tackle it. Although I hate to do this as I can’t bring myself to ask for suggestions or help, but exposure to various experiences and takes on the problem can open numerous doors for you.
  4. This is the most important tip to implement on yourself. Never think about the past. There is no point of repenting and mourning about your past mistakes or thinking of better scenarios in which you didn’t have to struggle with the current problem. Many a times you find yourself saying,” Oh! I wish I would have taken the other road.” This should be avoided and you should rather focus on getting rid of the problem.
  5. Another thing to keep in mind is to stop blaming people. You are accountable for whatever hiccup has come your way. I’m not suggesting that you are to blame for every mix up but in the end it’s you only who will have to find a way to overcome it.
  6. Keep thinking of solutions. A lot of you might not know this but our brain is designed to be afflicted by “functional fixedness”. It is the inability to think of a particular thing as having other functions other than the function for which it is traditionally used. For instance, we normally use a cricket bat to play cricket but we can also use it as a whacking stick to hit somebody callously. Hah! I’m just kidding. I surely don’t encourage it. I just intended to give an example for you to understand this concept better. So, Analyze the situation with a different perspective and think out of the box.

I hope my suggestions would help you transform into a resourceful problem-solver.

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Why does our brain always stimulate negatively towards problems? Can we turn optimistic?

Hi again folks! I had been away for a week due to my exams but now I’m back on track. Moving on, let’s dive straight into today’s topic! So, at first, you may be scratching your heads so as to figure out how the hiccups and obstacles in our life can potentially be responded with a positive approach. Let’s hold our horses and try to understand that it’s not as mind-boggling as it seems. So, obstructions in our life, be it daily stumbling blocks or big adversities, are not easy-peasy to get through. They are, in fact, too overwhelming and stressful. But that’s the thing, you see, we always have a negative outlook towards a problem. We never try to relax ourselves for a bit and try to overview the situation rationally. It’s because whenever things get out of our hands, we can’t tolerate such mishaps and our upper part of the brain which is logic-driven and helps in analyzing and solving the problems, shuts down and the lower part of the brain which is instinctual and mainly deals with emotions, becomes super active and that is why we immediately get anxious whenever a challenge has to be faced. However, it absolutely doesn’t mean that you can’t do anything about it, you surely can.

Following are some of the techniques that I use to avoid overreacting and to let myself feel the emotions that prevail at the time of any hindrance:

  • The first thing that is of utmost importance is to get acquainted with your emotions that you feel whenever you confront a problem, ask yourself how are you exactly feeling: is it extreme agony or merely anxiousness portrayed externally in the form of sudden outburst.
  • Next step is to embrace your emotions and relax for a bit. Drink a glass of water and distance yourself from people for a while to settle down your overwhelmed feelings. [A word of caution: while disengaging yourself from the crowd, be careful that you don’t say something hurtful to anybody.] Though it’s difficult at first but gradually, with practice, you’ll get better at it.
  • Try to calm yourself down and assure yourself with the help of affirmations like “I got this” or “I’m strong enough to tackle this”.
  • Don’t just think of it as a hurdle. Think of the big picture. It’s just a speed breaker that has come your way. Just a little push forward would do. And that push would come with a whole lot of hard work, perseverance and firmness which will ultimately help you to grow. So, in the long run, it’s not a misfortunate thing to have happened after all. Just a reminder I’m still talking about facing problems not about overcoming the speed breakers; that was solely a metaphorical mention. Lol!

Do let me know in the comments how you find this post and also post some of your tips to have a positive reaction to a problem!

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Is music solely for leisure or does it impact us way more than we think it does?

Welcome back! Here I am with the second blog. So, as I mentioned in my previous blog (those of you haven’t read the previous one can check it out: https://quirkytalksss.art.blog/2021/11/18/a-sneak-peek-into-my-life/) that I adore music to infinite lengths, following this, I would like to pen down my views on how music plays a vital role in everyday life. So, lets dive right in.

Generally, we all listen to music: some listen to relax, some listen to cure boredom, some listen while commuting, some listen while running errands. In short, music is an all-in-one package; it’s something which we can listen to while doing literally anything. Moreover, it holds a unique curative power which can help us to get through our long, stressful days and can even help us to overcome downward spirals that we may be facing in our lives. Adding to this, whether we realize it or not, music acts as our true friend and comrade which never turns its back in the phases of our lives filled with melancholy and darkness. Though it may seem like there are people who get you through tough times but, ultimately, it’s just music with which we can truly relate.

So, this was a compilation of my beliefs on significance of music. Let me know in the comments how music influences your life.

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A sneak peek into my life…

Hi! I’m Harnoor. I’m a 17-year old girl living in India. 

To begin with, I’m a July Cancerian who totally relates to the general traits of a Cancerian. With this, you will probably get a hint that I’m so into zodiac signs. One thing I love to do is to listen to music. For almost every single task ranging from copying down my notes to taking shower, I NEED music. The word “need” in uppercase explains the significance of music in my life. Lol. But for real, I just love music and interestingly, most of the conversations with the people around me are built up due to music. Apart from music, I love watching rom-com movies, horror movies and Christmas movies. However, it’s very difficult for me to complete a movie in a single day, I usually take 2-3 days to complete a movie or even more in some cases lol. Also, I like baking but, on the other hand, I hate cooking. 

Now, as I’ve given an overview of who I am, I would like to confess my motive behind starting up my own blog i.e. sharing my views and opinions on a wide range of topics with the world and adding fuel to my driving force (writing) to keep on going. At the same time, I’m slightly reluctant because it’s not just a new  venture but also a disclosure of my deep thoughts and beliefs. It is partially due to the fact that I am an introvert.

I think this would do for an intro and hereby, I’m wrapping up. Bye!! Coming up with another one real quick.


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