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Is music solely for leisure or does it impact us way more than we think it does?

Welcome back! Here I am with the second blog. So, as I mentioned in my previous blog (those of you haven’t read the previous one can check it out: https://quirkytalksss.art.blog/2021/11/18/a-sneak-peek-into-my-life/) that I adore music to infinite lengths, following this, I would like to pen down my views on how music plays a vital role in everyday life. So, lets dive right in.

Generally, we all listen to music: some listen to relax, some listen to cure boredom, some listen while commuting, some listen while running errands. In short, music is an all-in-one package; it’s something which we can listen to while doing literally anything. Moreover, it holds a unique curative power which can help us to get through our long, stressful days and can even help us to overcome downward spirals that we may be facing in our lives. Adding to this, whether we realize it or not, music acts as our true friend and comrade which never turns its back in the phases of our lives filled with melancholy and darkness. Though it may seem like there are people who get you through tough times but, ultimately, it’s just music with which we can truly relate.

So, this was a compilation of my beliefs on significance of music. Let me know in the comments how music influences your life.

Kindly don’t mind the errors if any. Not an expert in English. Thanks for reading🙂

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A sneak peek into my life…

Hi! I’m Harnoor. I’m a 17-year old girl living in India.

To begin with, I’m a July Cancerian who totally relates to the general traits of a Cancerian. With this, you will probably get a hint that I’m so into zodiac signs. One thing I love to do is to listen to music. For almost every single task ranging from copying down my notes to taking shower, I NEED music. The word “need” in uppercase explains the significance of music in my life. Lol. But for real, I just love music and interestingly, most of the conversations with the people around me are built up due to music. Apart from music, I love watching rom-com movies, horror movies and Christmas movies. However, it’s very difficult for me to complete a movie in a single day, I usually take 2-3 days to complete a movie or even more in some cases lol. Also, I like baking but, on the other hand, I hate cooking.

Now, as I’ve given an overview of who I am, I would like to confess my motive behind starting up my own blog i.e. sharing my views and opinions on a wide range of topics with the world and adding fuel to my driving force (writing) to keep on going. At the same time, I’m slightly reluctant because it’s not just a new venture but also a disclosure of my deep thoughts and beliefs. It is partially due to the fact that I am an introvert.

I think this would do for an intro and hereby, I’m wrapping up. Bye!! Coming up with another one real quick.

Kindly don’t mind the errors if any. Not an expert in English. Thanks for reading:)

“Taylor swift is not a good role model” WAIT WHATT?!

Dear loyal readers, I am glad to welcome you all back after a really long time.

A little life update: I recently completed my schooling. I’ll be entering into college the next month, pursuing psychology as my major. Besides, I am learning French nowadays. I have also started taking therapy (which I wanted to do for a long while). I have lost some kilos and some people here and there ;). It wasn’t supposed to be too dark tho.

I recently came across an article published on a renowned news website ,“Newsweek” by the writer John Mac Ghlionn stating that Taylor Swift is not a good role model for young girls. Why? Simply because she is “unmarried” and “childless” at the age of 34.

It is 21^st freaking century and you are still basing your opinions about a woman on the fact whether she is married or not or if she has had kids or not?? Get a life Mr.!

Why has no one dared to say that for a man? Solely because they are a man? It is okay for a man to remain unmarried and childless in their 30s but not for a woman?? Why so? Who is making these uncanny, misogynistic rules??

Even though the writer himself proclaims that Taylor Swift is “an economic powerhouse of epic proportions”, he has an outrageously conservative outlook on her personal life choices. Even after being such a huge success, the society still gauges a woman’s worth on grounds of her marital status. Instead of admiring a woman’s caliber and undeterred spirit and taking inspiration from her, people look down on her just because she is unmarried.

Marrying and having children is the conventional norm of the society. However, it is not a pre-requisite to having a successful and jubilant life. It doesn’t imply that “YOU ARE SETTLED” for life. Some people who marry and have children live a fulfilling life ahead whereas, married life is a trap for others. So, it is not a surefire path to success and happiness.

It should not be a responsibility or a burden on each individual to raise a family and to carry forward the lineage but a choice that one makes for oneself.

It is not the naysayers who are living your life but you. So the decision is in your hands and no one has the right to object YOUR decisions of YOUR own life.

What is your take on this? I would love to know in the comments below.

Disclaimer: These are solely my personal views and perceptions and I gladly embrace the difference in the approaches we might have. Also, the suggestions that I give are also subjective and I don’t intend to dictate anyone. Kindly don’t mind the errors if any. Not an expert in English. Thanks for reading!😊

A Free Club for Menstruating Women

Come up with a crazy business idea.

On the 3rd day of my menstrual cycle, I’m inclined to think in this direction and this was the first idea which came into my mind as soon as I read the word “crazy”.

So, extending my business proposal right away. I think there should be a club for women where there are male and female workers serving the menstruating women on their periods. They should get first-class services ranging from heating pads to comfort foods. The infrastructure should constitute mainly beds, comfy couches and cushions. Some entertainment programmes should be organized to keep the mood swings of the customers in check. The best part should be that the employees should be able to listen to their customers rant all they want to. Every woman should be granted a free entry in such a club for atleast 3 days of every cycle.

I’m starting to believe that this may not be crazy at all and this business scheme can actually be implemented some day when the patriarchy decides to step down and when the world leadership starts to think of women as separate entities and not club them with children, for God’s sake.

This is my idea of a business venture. What is yours? Let me know in the comments below. Even if you have any suggestions regarding my business proposal, do tell. I’d love to read them and what I’d love more would be someone willing to invest;) Just kidding!

Can you do these things for yourself?

In the contemporary era of hustle culture and fast-paced life, our mental health takes a toll. So, it is extremely crucial for us to take care of our mental health.

Here are some of the things which I do and has helped me to improve my mental health:

1. Journalling

Journalling is the most effective way, I believe, to vent out our feelings and flush out all the unwanted thoughts by putting them on paper. It helps us to organize our thoughts and feelings. It helps you calm down and makes you feel fulfilled and satisfied.

2. Expressing Gratitude

Saying thank you for the smallest of things has a very significant impact on us. It helps us to count on our blessings and we, thus feel privileged and loved. It sows seeds of positive feelings in our mind. Thus, expressing gratitude is a great way to improve our mental health.

3. Self-talk and introspection

Our soul is a boundless ocean. Looking within and self-reflecting helps us to unlock the different aspects of ourselves. We get to know more about the virtues and vices within us. We get enlightened with all the different sides of us which further broadens our horizons of mind.

4. Taking frequent breaks

It is very essential to keep taking intermittent breaks to keep refreshing ourselves. No matter how much we perceive non-stop working as productive but it is not true at all. A human mind can’t possibly focus for long and if we keep forcing ourselves to concentrate, everything inside our head gets mixed up and we end up screwing things more than ever. Thus, it is necessary that we take small breaks.

The Perpetual Battle among the rational mindset, heart and the inner voice

Do you trust your instincts?

Mostly, no. I don’t usually trust my instincts but once I have an intuition about something, I don’t let it slide away although I don’t completely rely on it.

However, I think that I should trust my instincts more often because in the end, they always turn out to be true. Even after knowing this, I tend to let my mind and heart take the upper hand. Well, obviously not both at the same time but one or the other depending on different contexts. I would like to explain myself with an example.

For eg: if I have a gut feeling that a plan is likely to get cancelled at the last moment, I would try to rationalise by putting forth facts in front of myself as valid points. That’s how my mind becomes the primary force. But eventually, the plan does get cancelled.

In another case, if I feel that a relationship isn’t going to end on a positive note, I try to deny that feeling and let my heart take over and I take a leap of faith and that leap doesn’t end up in a good place.

So, be it the mind or the heart that takes control rather than my instinct, I only realise that my instincts had been right all along. That’s why I want myself to trust my instincts more.

This was my story. What’s yours? Do you trust your instincts? I would love to know in the comments below.

If not me, then who?

Lately, I’ve been struggling a lot to prioritize myself. I’d worked hard to build boundaries during the pandemic but post pandemic life showed me that those boundaries are fragile and can easily be crumbled by the world.

I realised that even though we may have incredible relations with our family, friends, spouse etc., it is of utmost importance to have a deep bond with ourselves. In the wake of going the extra mile for our loved ones, we quite often lose ourselves.

As a result, at the end of the day, we don’t feel a sense of fulfillment because we don’t feel satisfied with ourselves anymore knowing the fact that we are no longer doing anything for our own self.

Although our near and dear ones are our pillars of strength for us, but we need to come to terms with the fact that we are the main character of our life, we have to wake up and work hard and make our dreams come true. No one else is going to give you the happiness which you’ll get after reaching your goals. There is no substitute for that sense of gratification. Thus, we should get back on our feet and gear up and burn the midnight oil to get what we want because, in the end, it is our own individual self that we have with us.

Harsh truths about life I’ve learnt so far….

Hi guys! How are you all? Yes, this is me going MIA for about half a year and suddenly popping up in your notifications one fine day. I deeply regret not being active here at all since the past few months and I genuinely thank everyone who has remained subscribed to my page till now. I promise I’m going to post regularly like earlier. A lot of things have happened, many mistakes committed, innumerable lessons learnt and what not! But you get a revamped me, not completely but partially in terms of enhancing some features of my own and inculcating some new ones with the flow.

So, since I mentioned that a plethora of things have happened lately, I would want to talk about the harsh truths which I have been enlightened with recently.

1. You can’t satisfy everyone
Number one, you can’t succeed in living up to everyone’s expectations every time. The pre-conceived notion others have about yourself is very distinct from who you really are as an individual. As a result, people’s expectations vary with our own aspirations and desires. Therefore, we should focus on fulfillment of our wishes rather than trying to cater to everyone’s expectations. Even if we manage to fulfill others’ desires, they would never be fully content as it is a human tendency to keep wanting more and finding faults.
For example, I tried a lot to restore a good impression of mine in front of a school teacher and did whatever I could to make her believe that I’m on track. Rather than retaining her faith in me, she, in turn, spread a bad word about me in the school.

2. You can’t change how others feel or think about you
This is a very important realization as a lot of times, we tend to keep hoping that there may come a time that they will starting holding a different view of us. A specific version of this hope is when we are in love. Subconsciously, there is a thin thread of hope that keeps us hanging to the person we love due to which we believe that someday that person will also reciprocate the same feelings with you magically.
However, it is necessary to recognize that how a person feels or thinks about you isn’t in your hands and you can’t control it even though you say or do some things purposefully to enable that person to have a different opinion about you.
3. Actions speak louder than words.
This is a very popular adage but it is true indeed. A lot of times, people don’t practice what they preach. Due to the hypocritic idiosyncrasies of humans, people’s actions and words contradict each other. Therefore, we should never buy into people’s words gullibly, we should try to determine the authenticity of what people are speaking by keeping an eye on their behaviour patterns.
For example, if a person says “I respect you”, but goes behind your back and speaks bullshit about you, then his/her action is clearly not justifying his/her claim.

4. The world isn’t humane enough to give room for errors and follies.
We, as humans, make many mistakes especially in our adolescent years and it’s absolutely fine. It is a fundamental human characteristic to mess up things, to make the wrong choices and let the heart intervene in rational thinking. However, it is unfortunate to acknowledge that people don’t actually give you sufficient margin as a human. They don’t spare you for even the slightest of mishaps. On one hand, they preach of self-love but on the other hand, they compel us to be hard on ourselves.
The solution to this is accepting your mistakes and moving on although it is a cumbersome task when people keep pushing you down by reminding you of your misdeeds. You must keep in mind that they don’t know the real you and they have no damn clue as to what is really up with you and how difficult it is already to turn over a new leaf.

5. Not everyone is as empathetic as you
Every human being is so absorbed by his/her own desires and emotions that they don’t actually pay much attention to others’ feelings and needs. At times, they not only sideline others’ emotions and desires but also misuse their emotions for the gratification of their own needs.

These were some of the harsh truths that I’ve learnt in the past couple of months. Don’t forget to add on in the comments below.

Happy new year♡

Top 5 Christmas movies to watch this year!

Since a lot of you all really appreciated my blog on Christmas movies last year, I thought of writing one this year as well. In case you haven’t read my previous blog on Christmas movies, click on the link to read it: https://quirkytalksss.art.blog/2021/12/20/top-7-christmas-movies-you-should-watch-to-feel-the-holiday-vibes/

PS: All the movies are available on Netflix.

1. Christmas at the Palace

This movie is about an ordinary girl who gets to train a royal in skating and once she starts staying at the Palace, she falls in love with the Prince. It also portrays the ways in which the Christmas spirit is revived in the Palace. You would love this movie if you love royal fantasies.

2. Christmas with You

This movie is awesome and gives all the feel-good vibes. It is about how a popular singer finds the lost spark within her during the festivities and gets back on track with a boom.

3. Falling for Christmas

This movie is about how a spoilt youngster undergoes an accident and loses her memory that is a blessing in disguise as she goes through a starling transformation for good. It is a great movie for a single-time watch.

4. The Knight before Christmas

This one is fabb! It is intriguing to watch as a knight time travels from some medieval period into the contemporary era and falls in love with a high school teacher .

5. Christmas Inheritance

As the title suggests, it is about a girl wanting to take over her father’s business but is unable to unfurl her potential to show it to her father and so, she goes to a town for running her dad’s errand and while being there, she learns the value of benevolence and hardwork.

Hope you find these movies interesting enough to delve into the holiday spirit.

Wishing you all a blessed and joyous Christmas!

Feeling hurt and focused

I relate to this a lot. In fact, today only I realised something about someone which hurt me and after a while, automatically I began to think of eliminating these kinds of distractions and focusing on my academics and career.

I don’t know if there exists a correlation between getting hurt and focusing but if I look at my experiences, it is true to an extent. Let me know if this happens with you too.

Quote of the day

Yesterday, when I was casually talking with my friend about someone else, I formed this quote in my mind all of a sudden.

Speaking of exaggeration, I feel when we exaggerate and in turn, manipulate our experiences while conveying them to someone, we intentionally or unintentionally want to elicit sympathy and mercy from people. We somewhere have this urge to project ourselves as pitiful and docile creatures.